What is the love relationship psychology?

Keeva and Brian bestie, pursuing their 2nd year of business management. They both were the only child of their parents belongs from the middle-class family. Like these also few more similarities they have, but when it’s come to their goal about the career they became very classified. Brian helps her a lot in her studies he forever is a good score achiever in mathematics while the opposite is Keeva whose maths grade was not so satisfactory one but still Keeva surprised when Brian asked her to help him with his maths worksheet even he is the master of calculation.

marriage-2239035_1920

Their relationship slowly had been reaching beyond that friendship where earlier when Keeva used to share her lunch box with Brian, he never felt discomfort to have it, in fact, many times he snatched it from her hand, when its comes to his favourite items made by his sweet aunt (Keeva’s mother) as guys never carry lunch box after clicked from school, but now he begins to say her thanks for even a small bite of it. Even she observed that Brian was so jealous if he spots her talking with some other guy. He would keep taunting her for that it could be irritating.

 How to define this caring?………..

 Keeva noticed that sudden change grew up within him because his uttering of ‘thanks and sorry’ grew with passing days where earlier Brian never behaved so formal ever with his bestie. He now starts to learn to cook her favorite dish from his mother and make aware his parents about her. He always tries to surprise her for making her laugh. Even while crossing the road he always holds her hands and walks beside her in such a way that if a car hits then he would be the one to get hit first.

Keeva understood that Brian had already fallen for her and he won’t be able to express his feelings in front of her so she waited for his confession.

There Keeva’s parents had already started searching suitable groom for their daughter Keeva. Even her father chose the groom and fixed up the final date of marriage of Keeva without granting her affirmation. Her father when acknowledged her about her marriage with Sam, she in her low voice just told them that she didn’t want to marry now as after completion of her education she wants to do the job. But Keeva’s father was the man of the house who never thought necessary to take opinion from his family ever on any significant issue.

Here she was eagerly waiting for Brian’s up-front confession about his feelings as Brian gave her subtle hints like talking about family and kids. Yes, he talks about kids with her, the topic which freaks us out. The only reason for which he talking about kids with her is that he loves her and want their kids to look up to her as he knows that she would be a great mom. He already started thinking about her as his wife. She felt the gush in her blood.

Keeva observed his blushes when their friends derisively uttered her name with him. She felt when he cares her, respect her each sole decision and loves her in his eyes and in his smile.

Entering of someone……………..

Ultimately the day came when she had been convinced by her parents for marriage because she knows well that her father would never listen to her voice nor her mother has that guts to go against the decision of her father.

Keeva never met Sam before the engagement. She wasn’t thrilled to meet him. Sam didn’t look good at all. He was out of shape, partly balding and just not a looker at all. Moreover, he was unfriendly by nature.

So finally she got married to Sam without her acceptance and choice.

When she met this guy, she doesn’t think he would mean anything to her. But with passing time, she found genuinely interested in some another man whom the world defined as her husband. She even laughed at his stupid jokes and shared all her stories definitely except her past affection, just to keep the conversation going. Sam even casually flirted enough with his wife which makes her feel that he was interested too and she felt a different sort of happiness, not the kind when she was hanging out with her friends.

 As she now realized that Sam was the man in her life with whom she would have to spend her whole life with full faith and for this only reason she decided that she will share the utmost secret of her life regarding her bestie with her husband Sam because she doesn’t want to keep her husband in dark. As she wished for a new beginning.

Time revealed the past…………..

By trusting Sam’s affection, Keeva told him everything about her past. She portrayed her husband that how her bestie Brian feel for her intensely but never dare to proclaim ever in her presence. Sam now eager to listen in brief about their fondness, he makes the ambiance so friendly while listening all those that Keeva shared her all good moments spent with her bestie where the phase came when they both realized that their relationship now reached beyond the friendship.

It was all good for a while. But suddenly Sam just stops and those conversations become awkward. That drifts, she wondered that where she went wrong. What could have been? Those sleepless nights.

All of a sudden the past sharing of Keeva with her husband snatched her all marital happiness within a second. Sam changed the color like a chameleon. She started questioning him but didn’t get any answers not even got a proper closure. That moment where she has to learn to let go and it’s not so easy letting someone go when there was nothing to hate about the person. We all know how this goes.

When the relationship changes its color……..….

Sam never behaved nicely with her after that night. He comes back from office around 10.00pm, she already in the kitchen heating up the dinner. They sat for dinner, she asked him ‘How was your day?’ his response, ‘pathetic’ and she was not asked any further…

The dinner ends in silence in the next 10 minutes, he was already exhausted by then and leave to go to bed as he gets up at 6 am. No communication whatsoever.

They are forced to walk away and pretend like they didn’t mean anything to each other. For Sam once a cheater is always a cheater, so he never gave another chance to his partner after breaking his heart.

She started questioning but didn’t get any answer. Keeva now realized that Sam behaved like a typical husband who could never be her bestie. She shared her past with this faith that Sam would take it in a lighter way, exactly like Brian who comprehend her all good and bad sharing in a very casual manner when his reactions were always only for that moment, time specific, he never held a thing for a long time nor interpreted it ever in a differ way. He never gives up on her, when she starts freaking out because he knows how to calm down her. She was the only medicine for all his problems. Her voice, even a missed call from her was enough to lift him up in his life.

Sam never behaved nicely after that. He treats her like a servant. Even when she fell sick and did all household chores in her high fever, when she literally unable to get up and fetch herself a glass of water… her husband goes about his routine as if she does not exist. There were so many ways in which time and again, she received the message that he doesn’t love her. The relationship is closed chapter now for her and she pushed herself hard to move on.

 Now for Keeva sharing any problem with her parents was useless as they didn’t even consider those things a problem and it will only be a problem if her husband started beating her daily. She knew very firmly that there is always one person in the relationship who loves more than the other. The person who loves the least will have more control on the relation.

Feeling of repent …………….

Keeva’s marital life was now standing on compromise. She regrets that why she unravel her past to her husband when her husband wouldn’t ready to accept it as the past only which has no existence with her present and future. Moreover neither she had an affair with her bestie nor had any physical relation then on which basis her husband behaved so irrelevant with her? What was her crime?

Is to share the good memories of past with our closed ones is a crime? If yes then never share that past with your spouse which will destroy your marital life because at the end of the day they will also behave typically with you by overlooking your candor. Whereas they like openness but when its come to their personal life they wouldn’t ready to come out from that conventional shield of ignorant and egoism and immediately reacts.

Earlier Sam would love to play with her hairs, he would hold that strand of hair and gently put it behind her ear. Again to write her name on her back with his finger and then asked her to guess the word. Now circumstances were quite changed and her presence in the same room was also enough reason to irritate Sam.

While doing copulation Sam never asks her acquiescence, he treated her like a slave on the bed his animalism often shows on her physic. Whereas Brian never asks her to sleep with him against her wish because he respects her decision and won’t stop loving even if would say NO to him. She will have to initiate the talk if she wants to have it. If happens otherwise, it’s a warning sign. Because of he afraid to lose her for something as superficial as sex and he respects her too much to see her naked. He treats her like a precious diamond or a delicate doll. The care and compassion with which he handles her would melt her heart till.

She felt repent every second now that why she wouldn’t confess about her feelings towards Brian instead of waiting for his divulge. If she doesn’t wait for his confession then today they might have been living together.

 Brian cannot imagine his life without her as she was his oxygen, his water and every damn thing which is necessary for life. As he would treat her like a part of his soul and he was incomplete without her. She knows that her all dreams have died. Sometimes, she doesn’t even feel alive anymore. She has given up because she has no strength left to fight.

Remember few significant aspects of life………

  • Never lose your self-respect.
  • Let them blabber when they are angry, just stay calm ..! What goes around comes around.
  • Remember you survived even before you met that person, you can live even after they leave
  • Lack of communication, especially when it’s mandatory to uttered your feelings before it’s too late to solidify a relationship and when there is a misunderstanding also there where. No Communication is NEVER a solution to any problem in life. Be it friendship/romantic relationship or any other relationship. Sometimes they misunderstand you as being desperate when all you want is to be understood.
  • Care is sometimes misunderstood as pestering, love as torturing, not moving on as weakness and not letting go as stubbornness!
  • You are your best friend and you won’t judge yourself because only you know your true self and intentions.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *